Nano Make Over...

This is the end result

New mini canister filter

Rain bar...

Mini surface skimmer

GEX soil

Preparation

Rescrap the Nano Tank soon...

Buy the mini canister filter with flow rate 360L/Hr and Mini surface skimmer to replace the current HOB filter...free a piece of small driftwood

Fertilizer using Seachem Flourish Excel and JBL Ferropol...

For soil i will be using this brand...GEX soil for waterplant....

Smile...

How can one smile such sweet smiles,
When one is so saddened by sorrows for miles,
How can I smile the same smiles,
When life brings me nothing but tears,
I wondered for so long,
What reason you had to smile that long,
To keep smiling though troubles come,
And still remain sweet and silently overcome,
It's such a mystery to me,
Your smiles from heaven with glee,
I adore and yet envy thee,
But I'd rather you smile those at me,
I feel happy when I see you smile,
Even if I'm sad and lonely,
Your smiles bring me somewhere,
I don't even know where,
But it was you,
You gave me the reason to smile,
To smile with no reason,
To smile for a smile,
I guess life is just like that,
We need not a reason to smile,
For a smile is the reason itself,
To rejoice and open-heartedly give thanks,
I learned to smile because of you,
Because your smiles bring me joy when blue,
It proves how well and powerful,
A simple sweet smile can become so beautiful,
Smile for the sake of a smile,
Smile for the sake of happiness,
Smile for the sake of life,
Smile because of hope left in life,
Smile my friends,
Smile for me my Love,
Smile those same sweet smiles,

Smile so the world can be a peaceful dove...

CDs...

Lately got listening to these 2 artists CD...

Of cos I didn't went to buy the CD...just download from the net...wahaha...cyberspace so great!!

Olivia Ong (オリビア・オング, Olivia Ong, born October 2, 1985) is a Chinese Singaporean singer. She sings mostly in English but developed her career singing in English and, later, Japanese. In addition, she has also released rare tracks, recorded in Mandarin Chinese, which can be found on limited edition album tracklistings.

About Bevlyn Khoo :

Music is her passion and serves as one of the main driving forces in her life.

Bevlyn‘s active involvement with music took root at the age of five when she was found drumming her fingers happily on the piano’s keys by her dad who promptly signed her up for organ lessons thereafter.

Bevlyn is signed and managed by S2S Pte Ltd. Her first full-length album “You Are My Angel” is now available at all major record stores in Singapore from April 09...

Air Con is important when driving....

Last week my car air conditioning is broken down...

So I need to travel around under the hot weather reaching 33 degree Celsius...that is a torturing...

I already expected this monster above is broken...cos the foreman had told me last year when I send my car for service...

After check...the old compressor is leaking gas cos the air conditioning failure...

After changing to this Nippon Denso Compressor...which cost me RM606 including changing some piping that wear and tear...

Now is cold like cucumber inside my car...

Change to a new compressor had made my car idle RPM run liao...so got jerking while in idle...

After adjusting the number 1 nut for idle RPM before on air con and number 2 nut for RPM after on air con...

Still not very satisfy with the RPM...next week go find the uncle tune for me...

Hey, where is your entry??

This is the scolding i get from a friend...to push me to do some entry in my blog...

Not that I don't want...writing in English is hard for me also...you know my English standard...

Some more no people come to my blog to look see also...

I will try my best lah...patient...Taurus people actually is lazy character one...wahaha

The Twelve Steps of Bonding

Let me explain why sexual abstinence is so important to marriage and how it is related to the process of bonding. To do so, I will quote from my earlier book, Love Must Be Tough, in which I discussed the research findings of Dr. Desmond Morris. These insights were conveyed to me through the writings of my good friend, Dr. Donald Joy, and I am grateful to him for bringing them to my attention. I consider the concept of marital bonding to be one of the most vital understandings ever offered on the subject of long-term marriage. Read carefully, please.

Bonding refers to the emotional covenant that links a man and woman together for life and makes them intensely valuable to one another. It is the specialness that sets those two lovers apart from every other person on the face of the earth. It is God's gift of companionship to those who have experienced it.

But how does this bonding occur and why is it missing in so many relationships? According to Drs. Joy and Morris, bonding is most likely to develop among those who have moved systematically and slowly through twelve steps during their courtship and early marriage. These stages, described below, represent a progression of physical intimacy from which a permanent commitment often evolves.

1. Eye to Body. A glance reveals much about a person -- sex, size, shape, age, personality, and status. The importance people place on these criteria determines whether or not they will be attracted to each other.

2. Eye to Eye. When the man and woman who are strangers to each other exchange glances, their most natural reaction is to look away, usually with embarrassment. If their eyes meet again, they may smile, which signals that they might like to become better acquainted.

3. Voice to Voice. Their initial conversations are trivial and include questions like "What is your name?" or "What do you do for a living?" During this long stage the two people learn much about each other's opinions, pastimes, activities, habits, hobbies, likes and dislikes. If they're compatible, they become friends.

4. Hand to Hand. The first instance of physical contact between the couple is usually a non-romantic occasion such as when the man helps the woman descend a high step or aids her across an obstacle. At this point either of the individuals can withdraw from the relationship without rejecting the other. However, if continued, hand-to-hand contact will eventually become an evidence of the couple's romantic attachment to each other.

5. Hand to Shoulder. This affectionate embrace is still noncommittal. It is a "buddy" type position in which the man and woman are side by side. They are more concerned with the world in front of them than they are with each other. The hand-to-shoulder contact reveals a relationship that is more than a close friendship, but probably not real love.

6. Hand to Waist. Because this is something two people of the same sex would not ordinarily do, it is clearly romantic. They are close enough to be sharing secrets or intimate language with each other. Yet, as they walk side by side with hand to waist, they are still facing forward.

7. Face to Face. This level of contact involves gazing into one another's eyes, hugging and kissing. If none of the previous steps were skipped, the man and woman will have developed a special code from experience that enables them to engage in deep communication with very few words. At this point, sexual desire becomes an important factor in the relationship.

8. Hand to Head. This is an extension of the previous stage. The man and woman tend to cradle or stroke each other's head while kissing or talking. Rarely do individuals in our culture touch the head of another person unless they are either romantically involved or are family members. It is a designation of emotional closeness.

9-12. The Final Steps. The last four levels of involvement are distinctly sexual and private. They are:

• (9) Hand to Body,
• (10) Mouth to Breast,
• (11) Touching Below the Waist, and
• (12) Intercourse.

Obviously, the final acts of physical contact should be reserved for the marital relationship, since they are progressively sexual and intensely personal.

What Joy and Morris are saying is that intimacy must proceed slowly if a male-female relationship is to achieve its full potential. When two people love each other deeply and are committed for life, they have usually developed a great volume of understandings between them that would be considered insignificant to anyone else. They share countless private memories unknown to the rest of the world. That is in large measure where their sense of specialness to one another originates. Furthermore, the critical factor is that they have taken these steps in sequence. When later stages are reached prematurely, such as when couples kiss passionately on the first date or have sexual intercourse before marriage, something precious is lost from the relationship. Instead, their courtship should be nurtured through leisurely walks and talks and "Lover's Secrets" that lay the foundation for mutual intimacy. Now we can see how the present environment of sexual permissiveness and lust serves to weaken the institution of marriage and undermine the stability of the family.

-- From Love For A Lifetime, by Dr. James Dobson, pp. 32-34